Since it’s “Valentine’s Day” and everybody’s wearing red and pink and giving out flowers, teddy bears and balloons and all that other crap… Let’s talk about love lives, specifically mine…

I am single and loving it. People don’t seem to get that.

I’m seriously wondering if there’s a private underground competition happening at my school… “Whoever marries off Swair first will get the 7alawa! Because there’s no such thing as a single teacher!” Wtf?

It’s not that I don’t believe in “love” or “marriage” or anything like that. It’s just that the only thing I believe in is a lttle bit of that good old Q&N… ”Qisma & Ne9eeb“.. Ya 7alat el qisma oo el ne9eeb..

True, I was semi-married once (milcha actually, just didn’t do anything to make it a marriage), but that doesn’t mean that that wasn’t my Qisma&Ni9eeb.. It was an experience I was meant to go through because some people may say “Oh My… I’m sooo sorry you had to go through that!”, but the only thing I’m sorry about is wasting those months with someone who wasn’t worth it.. I’m stronger now and I know what I want from life.. THAT makes me happy..

It’s flattering that the teachers and girls at administration are interested in seeing me in a happy marriage, blessed with the right life companion, the father of my children, and I appreciate it because yaboon el khair for me and everything..

I mean, I’ve had three teachers wanting to marry me off to random relatives, and a STUDENT who likes playing match-maker, for crying out loud!

But it starts to get annoying when they start to assume that I’m crying myself to sleep because there isn’t a man in bed next to me, and that I’m miserable and unhappy because I’m single.. More than once, when they stand close to me and say, “Enshalla tetzawejain oo ewansech weld el 7alal oo testansain..” I really feel like saying, “Thank you so very much for those wishes, but.. Wallah I’m fine!! I really AM loved, I do have family and friends that care for me, a job I enjoy and my very own ma3ash to spoil myself!”

If anything’s ever going to happen, enshalla kila Qisma oo Ni9eeb.. I don’t need anybody trying to rush it or force it to happen as soon as possible.. Just go with the flow, people..

I’m sure that there are many girls who feel that way..

I mean, guys, you’re nice and all, bs mithil ma some of you tell your moms it’s too soon for marriage and everything, we have those same feelings too..

Sure, you have to “etkawen nafsek” so to speak, and be prepared to start a family or to share your life with a member of the opposite sex, but we feel the same way too..

You think we’re constantly ready to dress up, straighten/curl our hairs, wax/shave every few days, not allow our eyebrows to go wild, watch what we dress at home, have someone monitoring our every move and possibly making weird descions such as “Ma etroo7een el 3irs! La et6awleen with your friends”, somehow force us to shorten our shower-time (OMG, sharing a bathroom!) and many many things that’d get on our nerves…? Of course, we also know you have your own habits that you’d like to NOT share with a life partner or things you don’t want to see coming from that life partner…

So for “Valentine’s Day” (yes, it is between quotation marks cos I don’t believe in it *rolls her eyes*), all I have to say is I love my family, friends, blogger friends, real-life friends, my students, my staff members (in general, because they ARE great people on the inside), and everybody else, and I wish them all love too… I’m just not forcing it on them :p